Dilema.....

So I am having a dilema. I have two friends who are both guys, who both just started dating girls that apprently the other one does not like. One of the guy is my ex and so I have heard both sides of their stories. I know I should not get involved. And I guess that is probablly the answer to the dilema just don't get involved. So I'll just vent a little. I want to be able to call the ex and say look this girl is affecting everything in your life. Your not putting the time and effort into school and work that you need, which is causing a lot of stress. She is pressuring you to spend all of your time with her and so it is affecting your relationship with your friends. But I'm the ex girlfriend, and we haven't reached that level that I can say hey I'm saying this to you as a friend, because there is still the thought that your my ex girlfriend and you just want us to break up. But that is not the case, not today. I really am worried that he is going to lose this friendship. I thought they were good for each other, they had their guys nights, they were always laughing and carrying on, they work together and live together, and they used eachother to relieve that stress. I know that before when they were dating other people. We would all hang out and even if the girls didn't know each other it didn't matter. And I know that he is laying alot of his stress on me. So she is getting happy James and not having to deal with all his crap. He is not being faithful to her, but he also looks at that like in the past, when I haven't been faithful the relationships were long, they didn't last, they weren't healthy but they did last. And I don't know her I can't say anything bad about her. Whenever people are in a new relationship they want to spend all their time together, but it just seems that these girls are coming in between these two guys, and neither of the guys can talk to the other one, because they look at it like the other one is attacking the others girlfriend. And it pisses me off and I want to just lock all the guys in the basement with some porn and a video game system, and tell them their not allowed to come out until there all best friends again, and then I want to lock the girls in a room and tell em to go at. But I have been eliminated from this equations so it's like sitting on the outside watching all of my old friends totally crumble, and that sucks. I did tell the one guy that me and his girlfriend should go hang out one night and do something. So I think we are going to do that. Hopefully they will be able to get over each other and be able to find a balance before this friendship is so destroyed there is no fixing it.