Personal Wisdom.

When I think back on the cruel men who have come in and out of my life,  I often hear people say, it wasn't your fault.  You can't blame yourself because he was a this, that or the other.  And I agree, it is not anyone's fault when they find themselves in an abusive relationship.  You cannot change how a person treats you, however you can take the ultimate responsibility for staying and continuing to take it.

If you find yourself in one of these situations, if your scared. If you're being threatened, if the cops are at your door to arrest you because he has manipulated the situation to fit his needs, know you can leave, you can run, you can walk out with nothing or everything, material things don't matter, and even a short period of time lost in limbo is worth finding a safe footing for you to move forward. ~Kandi

Starbucks take on my life.

So I truely love Starbucks, I feel that it is the equivilant to heroine seeping through my veins each morning. My recent addiction, Pumpkin Spice Latte. mmmm mm good. But besides the addicting flavor I realy enjoy their little spurts of Wisdom they have plastered on the back of the cup. Some times this wisdon is just plain stupid and sometimes like today it is just what I need to remind me what reality is all about. Plus this morning it just fit what I have been going through, not just lately but perpetually throughout my life. So here it is Starbucks tip #160 The Way I See It.

Sixty-nine percent of all problems in relationships are unsolvable. They are about differences in personality or needs. They never change. When you choose someone, you have inherited the problems you will have for the next 50 years. Unfortunately, we pick people who are not as perfect as we are, so relationships work if you have wound up with perpetual problems you can learn to live with.
~Dr. John Gottman